This is Wednesday, my black cat. Like many cats, she has strong ideas about her personal boundaries and she's not interested in you pushing her limits. With the holidays coming up, I wanted to share a few lessons we can all take from cats and apply to our families...
You can show physical affection while honoring your boundaries. Wednesday likes to lay next to me, but not on top of me. She walks away if I try to "encourage" her to snuggle more than she wants. Cuddles on her terms are just as sweet.
Spend what time you'd like together, but don't be afraid to walk away for a while and take a break. Cats are infamous for disappearing for an hour or two for a nap and coming back. Give yourself and your family permission to take breaks and come back together during the holiday.
Eat what works for you. Wednesday turns up her nose at most of the human food treats I offer her. Sometimes she'll try a sniff, lick, or nibble, and decide that it's not for her. Giving everyone the right to choose what food works best for them takes the pressure off and prevents all kinds of holiday family arguments.
Purr when you're happy and content. Let others know what you're enjoying. It doesn't have to be a big declaration, but don't assume they know unless you're letting them know.
Don't be afraid to know when to call it a day. Wednesday will happily slip away and curl up in her bed when she's done for the day. Much like giving yourself permission to rest, there's nothing wrong with calling it a day when it feels right for you.
The holidays can be a difficult time. If you need support for making a holiday survival plan, schedule a session today and we'll make a plan.
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